Starting a new chapter is the most exciting thing one can ever think of. Imagine putting all your stress to an end, and being able to create the reality you would like to live.
Making friends who will love you, and finding a new job with a kind boss. Start a new business and earn all the money you can.
We all love the beginnings—the first stages of love, the first day in a new country, the first day meeting someone. Yes, they may come with some difficulties, but they also give us new opportunities to make things better this time.
Many of us sometimes feel stuck in some places, or we feel unfulfilled by what we have and wish for something better.
Or to some, we may just like to do something new, fresh. Start seeing new people, being in new environments, and trying out new activities.
All these things give us hope for a better life. A better reality.
The reality we can control, the reality we would love to live.
So, cheers to all of you who would like to take the risk and start a new chapter, it is not gonna be easy, but I guess that excites you!
So, what does it mean to start a new chapter in your life
Beginning a new chapter in life means that you hold an eraser and clean out everything that is not benefiting you in your life anymore and replace it with something that satisfies you that is new to you.
This process requires lots of thinking and planning to get it right and not end up in the same spot that you left at the end of the year since most people try to start fresh at the beginning of every year.
Why would you like to start a new chapter in your life?
The main reason why most people tend to start again even though the road is unknown is because they are suffering. They have tried everything they can to handle their problems but have seen no fruits.
So, instead of giving up on life, they chose a wiser choice which is starting fresh. Opening up a new page in their story one where they will be more careful with their actions.
How can you start a new chapter?
For you to make this the last time you ever think about restarting your life, for you to make it the chapter you would like to live in forever. You must follow the following steps carefully.
1. Find a good reason to end your old chapter
Find the main reason why YOU would like to let go of everything in your old life.
Why is it so important for you to start fresh?
What is bothering you right now?
Understanding your reasons for creating a new life for yourself will help you a lot when you face challenges later. You would just have to remember the reason why that life didn’t work for you to keep moving forward with a new one.
The road is gonna be bumpy, and our brains love familiarity. The main reason why you keep on starting, again and again, every year and ending up being in the same loop over and over is that the moment you find a situation that is new to you, you run back to your old problems just because you find them familiar.
You are used to being in that zone, so unless you have a good reason to keep moving even when you feel lost, you have to give yourself a good reason why never to think of going back to your safe space that you feel comfortable with.
You need to find a way to HATE your old life and never wish to go back to it. Break up with it or whatever you would like to call it.
If that would look like you breaking up with your partner with whom you don’t see the relationship satisfying you anymore, or losing friends who don’t care about you or they would like to go on a different path than the one you wish to go. Do it!
It will help a lot.
Just make sure it’s a good reason enough that you can never feel comfortable being in that space again, no matter what storm is hitting on your new road, you will find a way to survive without running back into your old life.
2.Imagine what you would like your life to look like
Have a great view of what your every day would look like if you were to do whatever you want. If you can imagine yourself being happy somewhere, what would it look like?
What are you wearing?
What types of people surround you?
Where do you live?
Do you have a partner?
What are their qualities?
What does the relationship look like (feel like)?
What are you doing for a living?
What is your personality like?
Are you kind and smiley or are you mysterious and scary?
These are just some of the questions I created to give you a nice idea of what it looks like to imagine your new reality.
Why is this important?
Because if you don’t know the destination you will only get lost and never get there habbti. Make sure you know what you want even how you wish to feel when you are living that life.
Everything is available, but you need to know what you are searching for to get it. So, if you don’t know yet what you like, you can go over to Pinterest and create a secret board where you will add everything that you like. Anything at all.
Search for what calls to you. Find pictures online of what you like and add them in there. Of course, this is not enough since it only shows what your life would look like, it is important to give thought to how it feels like to live it as well.
So here comes the time to journal about what your day will make you feel, try to imagine the place you wake up where you go how you feel what you eat who you meet what that person says, and what is his/her personality.
Imagine days as your happy, satisfied, and successful self looks and feels like. Jump straight into details, and enjoy this process. It’s the part where everything is easy.
I have heard a lot recently that this can make someone lazy to do the actual work to achieve it but I believe the very opposite, every time you live your old life you will miss the one you created for yourself.
You will start to develop that person’s skill, you will attract opportunities that will bring you that reality.
Why?
Because you will start believing it is yours, and that is true. But, don’t let your brain just create this new chapter far from your current reality, the next step is important too.
Do the damn work!
I am sure after the last step you realized how far you are from your next chapter and all the work that needs to be done.
It may seem hard and far, and I won’t lie to you. It is hard, but would you rather stay where you are?
5 years later you are still suffering with the same problems while you could be living that reality you have always wished for if only you did the work. Is that okay with you?
If so then just stop reading this post, it wasn’t written for you. If you would like to take this leap and start working for that life, then continue reading.
To do the work, you need to have a good plan that includes everything you wish to do or accomplish. I recommend that you sit down with yourself have it all and write them all down as goals.
The next thing is gonna be to ask yourself how you gonna get each goal done. Let’s say for example you saw yourself skinnier or curvier than you are right now, the plan would be for you to eat healthier and go to the gym or do some exercises at home.
So the moment you realised what you wanted the plan to get it became easier, but you need to actually put in the work to get the result you aim for.
The secret here is consistency and willingness to learn and take feedback. Stop trying to be perfect in your work, just make sure you do it rather than wait for the right time when you have all the resources, that is just an excuse, resources will find you when you are on your way there, not when you sit down waiting.
Find ways to keep yourself motivated, we all lose hope at some point, so make sure you have something to push you forward, to me that is my Pinterest vision board.
Every time I take a look at the lifestyle I would like to live, my motivation to work increases and I get the boost I need to keep going.
I will also recommend reading self-help books, they help a lot with switching your mindset into the one you need to get the job done, they have also helped me with my confidence and how I see myself.
You may also learn some valuable lessons that may help you along the way.
Thank you for reading this post, I hope it helped you in some way to start fresh in your new chapter. If you would like to say anything please do, right in the comments, I would love to hear your thoughts.