Being judged in childhood is rarely discussed, yet it has a profound impact on how we view ourselves as adults.
I’ve met many confident, happy people, most of whom had supportive parents who spoke positively to them. They were taught from a young age to believe in themselves.
In contrast, we were often told what we couldn’t do, criticized harshly even for small mistakes, and led to believe we were incapable.
This constant judgment shaped us into adults who hide our gifts, doubting our abilities and limiting our potential.
But success should not be reserved for those who were told they were “good enough.”
No one else can define your worth. It’s time to shed these outdated judgments and pursue the life we deserve.
If you’re new here, welcome home. This is a safe space for those who were unfairly treated in childhood, where we can heal and thrive together. So, grab a coffee, and let’s dive into what’s possible for us. ☕✨
Leave the environment that judged you
Leaving might not be the solution you wished for, but as they say, “You cannot heal in the same environment that hurts you.” So if you truly want to put an end to feeling judged, find a way to get away from that place.
That place is poisonous for your growth; these people enjoy seeing you struggle so they can find something to help them feel superior to you.
If you wish to give yourself a better future, a future where you are surrounded by those who motivate you rather than judge you harshly, start by giving yourself a new home.
If money is the issue, then your task right now should be finding a great job or business that pays you enough to get out of there.
Because, as much as this sounds easier than done, the price you will pay by staying where you feel judged is even more expensive because it will cost you yourself. Which we both know is priceless. So we should even negotiate this.
Know in your heart that they are wrong
I know that sometimes, we end up believing the judgments others make about us. But the truth is, they’re wrong. The reason you believe them is because you haven’t yet experienced a world where you’re free to be your true self.
These people try to confine you with their judgments, hoping that by doing so, they’ll keep you from achieving great things. And when you accept their views as facts about you, they win. But you, dear, are capable of being whatever your heart desires.
Don’t let limits be set for you by those who are too afraid to see you succeed. If they choose unhappiness, that’s their burden to carry. Your focus should be on becoming better every day.
You are capable of amazing things. If you weren’t, they wouldn’t be so busy trying to hold you back with criticism. They know, deep down, that if they don’t, you’ll prove them wrong.
Believe in your potential and stop listening to those who don’t even truly know you.
Work on building a strong connection to yourself
The stronger your relationship with yourself, the less power anyone’s insults will have over you. People who truly love themselves don’t let others’ judgments define them; they simply see those insults for what they are—foolish.
When you have a deep connection with yourself, your confidence grows. You become unbreakable, and it becomes hard to feel judged.
Haters may try, but you’ll be too busy loving yourself to take their words seriously. You’ll pity them, wasting their energy on negativity while you’re out there embracing life fully.
Surround yourself with people who motivate you not judge you
Avoid making friends with this kind of people, and make it your mission to surround yourself with those who inspire you and motivate you to become the best version of yourself.
Let’s be real: life is filled with hardships; we need people that push us forward rather than those who pull us down and judge us in every situation they can find.
As much as having a great connection with yourself is great, you also need others support if you wish to find your success and live happily.
These are people who would cheer you up when you feel down, advise you when you are in trouble, and celebrate with you when you win.
These people are so important in your life; we are humans, and we need other humans to survive and be happy. As much as you may think that you cannot die from loneliness, let me tell you the truth.
Most people who committed suicide are the ones that had no support. Those who felt so lonely and unimportant are the ones that see no reason to live.
I am not saying if you won’t have friends to support you, you may end up the same; I know you are smarter than that.
What I am trying to tell you here is that life is so much better when you have support. You become stronger even on the days that you feel down.
This also makes it harder for those who try to judge you; you are much scarier to them right now.
Listen to positive affirmations
When you hear something repeated to you for a long period of time, our minds tend to believe it. This is why when you tell a little child that they are good for nothing, they live their entire lives believing that it is true.
Why not use this method to improve ourselves instead? You can change your thought pattern by listening to daily affirmations so that you will stop thinking negatively about yourself and start believing that you are strong, kind, and worthy of love.
You will be in control of anything you wish to believe about yourself; this is great psychology to use and will help you become a stronger version of yourself.
Or even the main character in your life.
Work hard on falling in love with who you are
Loving yourself is the cure to so many manipulative games that people tend to play. If you wish to stop these nonses from getting into you, learn to love who you are inside and out.
This will make their judgements not even get close to you since you are so in love with yourself to care what anyone thinks of you.
Loving yourself doesn’t just heal you from their judgments; they also let you see yourself and understand who you are in a deeper way.
These will help you a lot, not only making you stronger but also more successful. I have never heard someone be successful without being madly in love with themselves. I am sure everyone in this post who is working on self-development is taking self-love very seriously.
People can never love you if you do not love yourself. If you wish to replace haters with lovers, then your love for yourself should always be your number one priority.
Don't allow anyone perception of you affect your life
We all come from different backgrounds; it’s very hard for us to actually agree on everything.
So don’t take it personally when people judge you or dislike you; you are just different than what they are used to.
You are unique; we are all allowed to see this world in a way that serves us. So stop letting someone’s opinion of you affect how you see yourself.
They are free to judge you however they like; its none of your business and has nothing to do with you. I promise you that person doesn’t even know you.
This is just how they stay safe and feel in control. Their thoughts come from their ancestors and how they were raised and taught.
It’s hard for everyone to just like you. Even God isn’t loved by everyone, even though He is perfect. Me and you, with all our beautiful mistakes, deserve to be loved, but it is hard for that affection to come from everyone.
You yourself judge people and don’t feel to love everyone. How do you expect others to feel any differently?
If you can, forgive those who judged you and let them go
Instead of living your entire life losing your energy by hating those who judged you in the past, learn to forgive and let them free from your heart. Let your heart only hold onto love.
Love is peaceful, hate is energy vampire. You want to lead a life where you will live peacefully.
A life where you are only spreading love and light in it. Hating these people won’t change them, it won’t change what they said to you.
It will only steal away they joy you would have experienced if you had let them go.
Free them from your heart, only allow your heart to feel peace. Love.
Forgive them and let them go. You deserve to be free and live peacefully in your own universe where someone else thoughts won’t affect your feeling to them.
Where you will look at those who judged you with pity.
Wishing they knew how peaceful life looks like when you stop spreading hate all around.
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