I believe that no human has been spared from being hurt and betrayed. We have all tasted pain in some way or another.
The only difference between a person who is striving and being happy right now, and a person who is being drowned by their past is how we deal with the trauma we face when we face it.
In this post, we will work on freeing you from the clutches of all that have been holding you back from living your best life as your best self, surrounded by all that you love. I won’t lie to you; life cannot be perfect, but it can get better than it is, and you can change your perspective to one where you are satisfied by all you have.
The goal is to wake up feeling excited to start your day, to jump out of your bed or hug the person you love harder, excited that you woke up to feel them close to you. I want you to be happy, and I have seen so many people struggling around me. This is me reaching my hand out to help.
I believe by helping others I will be helping myself as well. So let us dive right in shall we?
Why should you concern yourself with healing?
Healing is no game, it’s hard, and you will hurt even more before you feel better. No one knows how long it will take you to feel better.
So why go through so much trouble when you can stay where you are without looking at how badly this world has harmed you? Hmm…
Here is why healing is so crucial:
Healing allows you to enjoy life
The only way you will ever enjoy your life is when you have healed. Imagine you have cut yourself somewhere, and your partner is trying to touch you in that part of your body. Do you think you can enjoy their touch or would you mind being on alert trying to make sure that your partner won’t hurt you?
The same goes too you staying unhealed, living with wounds won’t allow you to relax and enjoy life in any way. Every time you are meeting someone the only thing you would be focusing on is finding flaws in them.
Can you trust them? If they do anything at all you may call them toxic or whatever your mind will come up with to ‘keep you safe’.
You will find it so hard to connect with others, enjoy the details of your life, or even live in the moment. You are always focusing on making sure that no bad comes to you. Is this how you wish to live the rest of your life?
Do you want to waste the years you have left on this earth hiding from this world and all it can offer just to make sure you are ‘safe’?
You need to remember that death is coming and there is no running from it, you can either let go of the stress you have, heal, and enjoy the little time you have in this world or you can hide yourself inside that box of yours and regret it while taking your last breaths. The choice is all yours.
Healing frees you from your past
For you to become a free human being who is not controlled by your problems, you need to heal. Happiness doesn’t come to you when you are enslaved by your past.
Yes, you cannot change what happened or what kind of trauma you face, but unless you heal you are controlled by it.
It decides if you should be happy or not, and how successful you can be. How much love do you deserve, you think this is how you gonna be happy.
Do you believe this is what you deserve?
And you think this world is cruel? You are being mean to yourself every day by not allowing yourself the chance to live freely without being held back by any of your wounds.
You are working and pretending as if you are not bleeding inside. This is so unfair, it is so cruel.
You deserve better especially from yourself after all you have gone through.
It is time to let go, to heal, to forgive.
It is time to free yourself from the clutches of your pain. It is time to swim and stop allowing the water to drown you.
It is time to take full control of your life because you are free now.
You survived, the wounds are healable.
The pain can be forgotten, and lessons learned.
It has come time for you to start using your wings and fly as far as you can go.
No more pain.
Connecting with other people
The thing that we have all noticed about those who are unhealed is that, they are all alone.
Even if they are surrounded by millions of people, you will notice that they feel lonely.
We as humans were made to be social, to talk, laugh, and live with others. If you find it hard to enjoy anyone’s company then it is a clear sign that you are living in survival mode.
It’s hard to enjoy others’ company when we are operating in that system, our brains are afraid to lose focus and be hurt again. That is why we push others away.
Connecting with other human beings is important not just for your success but for healing as well. A life with no one to share meaningless life.
Imagine getting so rich, that your bank account is blowing with money every second, but you have no one to travel or go shopping with. Yes, the first days might seem interesting but 4 years later, not really.
Don’t believe me?
George Eastman the founder of Kodak committed suicide in 1932. Although successful, he suffered from intense pain and loneliness in his later years.
This is just one of many successful millionaires who committed suicide just because of being lonely and having no one to enjoy it with.
Healing encourages you to chase your dreams
Along the way when you are trying to heal the wounds of your past, you learn a lot about what you wish for in the future. It makes you know your weaknesses and strengths.
This gives you a good opportunity to let yourself grow and live the life you have always wished for.
Let me give you an example, if you have been hurt by someone you loved dearly, that it shook your entire life and made you miserable. This is a sign that you value love more than you think. And instead of you ignoring that fact like most people who haven’t recovered from that betrayal. You will be glad that you went through that to discover how deep love means to you.
How badly you want it, there is nothing wrong with wanting something. I know we live in a world where you are told continuously that you should not want anything, I tried and managed that you know.
But you know what? It didn’t make me happy, when friendships don’t feel important you let them go. When love gives you small problems you run calling it attachment. It won’t make you happy.
You do deserve the world and more, but you have to work to show how badly you need it. If you start letting go of everything claiming you don’t need them, then guess what happens. You lose everything and everyone.
Even your own skills and passions, leave too. Because it is normal not to like things sometimes and do them anyway.
You should think in the long run, do you want it in 5 years? If the answer is yes then keep pushing yourself.
Studying won’t be something you enjoy but if you have to study to get your dream job, then you push yourself.
The same applies to starting a business, there are lots of things that you won’t feel like doing, but you push through, and you don’t give up. Why? Because the success is worth it.
Imagining yourself having that goal is worth every struggle, you will be proud of yourself at the end.
Healing isn’t easy either, but guess what we keep healing.
Relationships and family are hard too sometimes we face challenges, but we don’t just let them go unless we have to, unless holding onto them will hurt us.
Fight for what you want, and live your dream life.
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